Create Change in your life

If you are not sure what you would like to do with your life, as an exercise try thinking about what you would do to pass the time if you lived in the past, without modern technology. For example: What would you do if you lived your life 200 hundred years ago? Think of all the jobs and opportunities available to you today and then transport yourself back in time where there were less opportunities, how would you spend your time, what job could you see yourself doing if you lived in a different era where there was no modern day technology and where life was completely different?

What do you think you would most likely do?

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The actions we have taken in the past have bought us to where we are now, this is a fact. Look around you now, you are where you are because of a decision or decisions you made at some earlier or perhaps quite recent time in your life. There is nobody else to blame for where you are right now, if there is anyone is to blame at all. Accept it as it is, if you are happy to, if not then change it.

All life experiences are useful

Whatever you experience in life good or bad, you are always in a position to look upon it as a learning experience; doing so enables you to move your life forward in a new positive direction. If you have had a bad experience, instead of dwelling on the negative, take what learning’s you can from it and move on.

Always look upon life as a learning experience, if you have experienced something today that you haven’t experienced before, good or bad you are now more knowledgeable than you were yesterday, is this not a fact, and with this new knowledge you are in a better position to make a more informed decision on where you should be tomorrow or further into the future.

There is no greater teacher than experience, when you experience something you gain a firsthand account of what it feels like, looks like and even smells like. This knowledge will never leave you, and whenever there is a time when you need to make a decision about what to do in the future, you will, if you need to, be able to reference past experiences to help make a better more informed decision.

It is sometimes better in life to take action, get the experience, learn from it and move on, even if it isn’t the most enjoyable or you think you have wasted your time, you haven’t. You have always learnt something.

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What would you like in 3 months that you don’t have now? What about 6 months or a year from now? If you know your life is not taking you where you want to be than that is a sure enough reason to do something about it. If the image you get of yourself in the future doesn’t fill you with excitement or motivation then you need to do something about it. Your life is special and you should not waste it doing something for which you are not suited to or that you don’t enjoy. If you find yourself in the position of not knowing what to do with your life this is OK, understand that at this point in your life there are many opportunities available to you.

Don’t limit what is possible in your life through narrow thinking, you can have what you want, believing anything else is pointless and will lead you into a spiral of despair and negativity.

If you don’t believe you can have the life you want then you will more than likely end up depressed, so the first step to creating the life you want to is to believe it will happen.

You will need to be your own best friend right from the start; you will need to have your mind working for you not against you if you are to get remotely close to having the life you envisage for yourself.

What exactly do you stand to benefit by making changes to your life?

• Increased happiness / well being
• Greater wealth
• Increased self esteem / self confidence
• Improved outlook, more optimistic
• Healthier mind / body
• More friends, wider social circle
• Greater job satisfaction
• More satisfaction to live for now rather than wait for some point in the future to arrive
• Better relationships
• Career success
• More excitement
• Stress free life / More security

Feelings associated with successful change:

• Satisfaction
• Fulfillment
• Determination
• Empowerment
• Positive Attitude
• Self-confidence
• Creativity
• Self esteem
• Invincibility
• Happiness
• Courage
• Contentment
• Achievement
• Triumphant

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Is this you?

There may be times when your life situation may not be what you want it to be, and there may be times when for whatever reason our life doesn’t always resemble what we thought it would be like. We may not like to admit it at times, but sometimes our life situation can become a distant relative to what we want it to be like.

Your job may no longer inspire you, you may lose your creative instincts and the drive you know you once had. Your days may become long and your interest in life might dwindle, the flame, the passion you once had for your job is no longer there. You may really want to leave your job but you haven’t got the courage to take the leap of faith, so instead it becomes better the devil you know, or the lesser of two evils.

When you arrive home after another tedious day spent in the office, you may find you have zero energy to do anything and instead find yourself escaping reality for a while by watching countless hours of mindless television. You get up the next day reluctantly and repeat the cycle once more.

You travel to work and ask yourself as you sit on the bus, ‘how did I let my life get like this?’

You know you have to do something, all is not well in your life and deep down you realize your life won’t change all by itself. You have lost touch with who you are and what you really want, life has become your worst nightmare you are simply going through the motions.

You know you are capable of more, so much more. You are currently and have been under achieving now for far too long. You know you have the capacity to be someone special who achieves success in life; you know your life can be different, if only you could find that something which would motivate you to get going again.

You know the time has come, you can’t go on living the way you have been, you have got to step up and make the changes, it is time to take the bull by the horns, this much is certain.

It is time to change

So you know the time is now but taking action seems to be harder than you imagined, the difference between wanting to do something and actually doing it is actually quite large. All of a sudden you begin to question whether it is worth the effort. Perhaps now as you see the time has come and all that is required to change you begin to think that maybe you should just accept your life the way it is and just get on with it.

This would be a tragedy, a mistake of huge proportions, something which you must not let happen at any cost. It takes tremendous courage to take control of your life, most people never do. Remember it takes real effort and guts to change your life and grab control of your reigns. When you do step up and do what is required to make changes in your life you fall into the minority, as most never do, so once you decide to do something, congratulate yourself.

It can be done

The first step is identifying what it is you want to have, then to start taking action to make it happen.

Become inspired by your own life, it takes great confidence however old you are to take your life in a new direction but it can be done. Be positive and optimistic about what will happen in your future. Be proud of yourself to take the decision to create a new life for yourself. This is going to be a fun and exciting time for you as you go forth and write a new chapter in the play called ‘your life’.

“Life shrinks or expands in proportion to ones courage.”

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What are your plans for this week, this month? What about today? Do you have any plans for today? Plans are fundamental to success in life, without a plan you have no road map for your journey, consequently you have very little chance of arriving anywhere let alone at the place where you want to be.

For great things to happen in your life, you need to make plans on a frequent basis, not just once every few months but every week. It is probably fair to say that really successful people would set goals and make plans every day, writing out their plans for the week ahead perhaps on Sunday night and reviewing them each day, ticking off what has been done.

When you work for somebody else, plans are easily forgotten about. You just go in, do your job for 8 hours and come back home. That’s it, your plan was to get up at 7am, get the bus to work, do your job, leave at 6pm, arrive home and do whatever else you have to do. Maybe you don’t even have time to make plans let alone carry them out.

But imagine if you work for yourself. Imagine you have set yourself a goal of starting your own business. Making plans then becomes even more important.

Plans will set you up to achieve certain things at particular points in the future. Tasks will then get completed by deadlines which you set for yourself. If you don’t important tasks will not get completed and your chance of success will be greatly reduced.

If you want to start achieving more, you have to start doing more, and that all starts with making plans on a regular basis, working towards them and reviewing then constantly so you know where you are and what you need to do to make progress.

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Imagine if you were to just let your future happen, imagine if you took a reactive stance to life. What do you think would happen, or perhaps a better question would be – what would not happen? Are you about to let your life just happen to you? Are you being dictated to by others, your boss, family, so called friends? Or are you in complete control of everything that happens in your life? Do you want something more than what you currently have? Is there someone you aspire to become; is there something you wish to have in your life?

There are some people in this world who are not living the life they want, and who do absolutely nothing about changing it, or making it better than it currently is. To these people everybody else’s life is the main attraction and they are a part of the audience taking it all in. They are mere watchers, dreamers, the observers of life.

If you met these people at any time in their life and saw what they had and what they did, if in ten years you were to go back and revisit them, they would have exactly the same life as when you first visited them, with probably exactly the same views on life, how it is all so unfair and how only a select few get to live they life they want.

These people watch life evolve around them but they themselves don’t bother to evolve with it, choosing instead to carry on with the way things are and have always been.

Ask yourself the following questions:

• Are you just along for the ride?

• Are you just an observer?

• Are you happy to be on sidelines watching other people?

• Have you given up on your life?

• Does it matter what you do while you are alive?

Your future will just happen if you let it, life will push you around if don’t stand up and take steps to do what is required to create the life you most want to live. Life is to be lived, every moment of it, especially while you have a healthy body and mind, both of which you should be using in ways that make your life the most fun and interesting it possibly can be.

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Once an idea hits you, you will never look back. It can happen anywhere, on a bus, walking in the street, sitting in a restaurant, in the shower or when you are in a queue waiting to pay for your groceries. But when you get an idea for something a new business, a new goal you want to set for yourself that is line with your aspirations and skills that could potentially change your life forever, you will never look back.

It could be the idea you have been waiting all your life for, and when it comes you will know it is your way forward, your path to a more fulfilled life.

It will be the thing you were born to do, no longer are you looking at others who are passionate and absorbed in their work with envy, because you will now have your very own idea, something which combined with action, effort and your desire to succeed will take you to where you want to be.

You may never know when it will arrive, but you will be glad it did, it will be like an awakening, your purpose, your future, your destiny all rolled into one little idea. You may ask yourself why it took so long to arrive but underneath be eternally grateful.

It will use all your talents, you will happily spend hours, days and months doing whatever is required to turn it into a reality, for you will know that it is the vehicle from which all your future successes will come from.

You will completely immerse yourself in the daily tasks required to make it happen. It will be a pleasure, one that you are only too willing to carry out.

Your idea will be yours and yours only and you will make sure that you do all that is required to turn it into a success.

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Not sure where to go next? Answering the following questions may help:

• I’m passionate about…..

• I’m pretty good at ….

• I know quite a lot about …..

• I love the idea of …..

• I’m really interested in …..

• One of my past times is ……

• One of the skills I’ve got is …..

• One of my ambitions in life is ……

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When you make a decision to do something in life, the very act of making the decision can actually instill confidence in you that may not have been there before. It is a bit like when you bet on a horse, before you place the bet you are still unsure as to whether the horse will win, you hope it will win, but you aren’t really sure. However after you place the bet all of a sudden you become confident that the horse will win, you suddenly have faith in a horse that just moments before you weren’t sure about. You now totally believe the horse will win, you have placed your money and your confidence in the horse has grown.

With indecision comes fear and uncertainty, as you hesitate to make a decision, the process itself becomes harder as you constantly way up the pro’s and con’s of each choice available to you. You start to become unsure of what action to take which then breeds familiar cries of ‘I don’t know what to do’, or ‘I can’t decide’.

Once you make a decision these anxieties disappear, replaced instead by confidence. The uncertainty that was there previously has now been substituted with assurance that everything will work out.

A bit like a do or die situation, it’s like ‘OK i have made this decision, this is what I am going to do, so I might as well give it my best shot and give it everything I have’, fear and insecurity will only hinder any chance of this working out. An extra dash of boldness almost always follows any decision you make in your life, especially an important one that is about to bring change to your current circumstances or some other aspect of your life.

Once the fear has gone and the decision has been made you become clear on what you need to do and that is what you start focusing on. The hardest part sometimes is actually making the decision in the first place. How many times have you heard people say they can’t decide what to do?

There is little point in thinking about the other options you had when you have already made up your mind about something, the hard part has already been done. You don’t think about what a holiday to Greece might be like when you are on a plane to Italy. Instead you are thinking about all the activities you are going to do in Italy to make it a great holiday.

There is little point in wondering what might have been with previous decisions you have made in your life, or if you should of taken this path or that path. Seldom does this produce anything other than negative emotions such as regret, anger, depression. It leads to ‘what if…’, or ‘if only’ kind of thinking.

With decision comes commitment, you have made the decision and now you are committed to making it happen, making sure everything works out. Along with the commitment comes confidence. Confidence in yourself that you made the right decision and confidence in your abilities to make sure it happens.

So when you finally make that decision, (whatever it may be) just think of betting money on a horse, at first you weren’t sure that it was going to win, but now you have placed your bet, you become that little bit more certain that something good will happen.

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The month of December is by all accounts a time to celebrate good times with friends and family. It is also a time to look back on what you have achieved throughout the past year, a time of reflection on the things that you have done, or are currently doing and the things that you will continue to do in the future. It is a time to look back on what has been achieved rather than dwell on what hasn’t.

It is also a time when people most often look to the future, probably more than any other time in the year. When people make their plans for the future, the changing of the years seems to signify much more than the changing of the months or weeks.

But before the countdown starts to welcome in the New Year, it is important to have a clear vision, defined strategy or set of goals in place so when the New Year does arrive you are able to hit the ground running (or just carry on from where you left off previously).

Any time is a good time to create goals for yourself, but at the start of the year it just seems more logical, a brand new set of 12 months to play around with.

And so with that in mind, what are your plans for the coming year? What do you want to do? Where do you want to do it and when do you want to have it done by?

A vision for the year ahead is something that needs to be written down, spend some time with this, write it down on paper or type it up on the computer, don’t just think about it during your coffee break. When you write something down it somehow makes it seem more real, as opposed to just random thoughts in your mind. Play around with some different ideas and scenarios, which ones seem appealing, which ones don’t?

What is the time frame for each activity? Are you splitting the year up into quarters, every couple of months, half yearly, monthly or weekly?

• Are there any courses you want to start?

• How much money do you want to earn?

• Any places you want to travel to?

• Is there one thing you want more than anything else?

Once you have this list save it and refer to it often, use it to plan your monthly or weekly goals.

I think it is important to do this before January, the year has already started by then. Consequently when January does arrive you will already know what it is you have to do, you are aware of your mission (and have already accepted it). It is a tired old cliché but as you get older the years really do seem to pass by quicker, therefore taking time to complete tasks such as writing down your vision for the year ahead become ever more important.

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