Create Change in your life

Belief is fundamental before you will achieve anything in life. It may sound obvious, but it is very true, if you don’t believe something will happen in the future by the actions you take today, you will not even bother to start. Belief is a fundamental ingredient if you are to manifest any change in your life. When you don’t believe you always look for ways to confirm (normally by way of inaction) what you don’t believe will happen to be true. This is very easy to do.

So it is important when you set off on making changes to any aspect of your life that you first believe you can do it, and this means really believing even to the point of expectation, like you completely and utterly believe you will be able to carry out whatever goal or plan you have set for yourself.

There are probably many reasons why people don’t achieve what they want in life, one of the reasons will be a lack of belief. So you have to believe and you also have to….

• Encourage yourself
• Respect and think highly of yourself
• Keep on taking action until the life you want manifests itself

It may sound very simple but is there really a need to complicate things?

Is there really a secret to all this, to living your ideal life, I am not sure, but fundamentally at the core of any journey or path to a better life, there has to be faith, belief, self-confidence, and a healthy respect for yourself that you are indeed deserving and entitled to lead the life you want for yourself, and of course you are, but it is important that you firmly believe this when you set out on your journey.

In the early stages of change, it will be so much easier to give up and do something else. But the people who you see now living the life you most want to live could probably have given up as well, but they didn’t instead they kept on going and so should you.

There should be no need to get bogged down by negativity, observe it, and be aware of it if it happens in your life, but never let it have the final say. You will have the final say when you are living and breathing your ideal life.

When you have a goal in mind or something you want to achieve, you have to be positive about it and believe it will be possible right from the very first moment the thought enters your head. For example, I want this…. and yes I believe I can do it. I will do it., I will take action until it happens.

That’s it. No self doubt, no worry and certainly no ‘it will never happen’, or ‘it’s impossible’, because they will not help you.

The reality you live and will live in the future is dictated to by your thoughts and beliefs. So if you don’t believe something will happen or indeed it is possible guess what will transpire in the coming weeks and months?

First of all decide what it is that you want?

Now look around in as many places as you can and see if it has been done before?

If it has then you already know it is possible, you don’t have to believe because you already know it has been done before. So just get on with it and make it happen for yourself. You are no different to others who have made it happen you are just at a different stage in your journey.

If it hasn’t been done before, get ready to be the first to ever do it. It doesn’t mean it is impossible, it just means that it hasn’t been done yet. If you want to create something that hasn’t been done before believe you can do it and start taking action. There are many things in this world that were not always here, and so the person bringing them into manifestation would have not seen any examples of what they wanted to happen but he or she would have still carried on believing and taking action, and so should you.

Nothing is impossible, only the mind makes it so. Successful people are sometimes those that just kept going, carried on believing in themselves and never stopped taking action. It is not rocket science.

Believe it can be done always, because otherwise the moments of disbelief, will turn into days of inaction, which will delay you getting to where you want to be.

So first you have to……

• Always believe it will happen, and sometimes it is just better to know it will happen
• Keep encouraging yourself
• Look at where you were and where you are now
• Set short term targets
• Keep taking action until the life you want transpires in front of you

The simpler you can make it the better, it doesn’t have to be nor should creating the changes you most want in your life be difficult or hard. Take things bit by bit, and eventually you to will have a story to tell about how you completely changed your life around.

If the life you want has been done before then you should not be your own roadblock to success. Just keep on keeping on. Don’t make it harder than it needs to be.

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Re-labeling the external part of a negative belief - So let’s say you have a limiting belief that involves or is based on some behavior exhibited by yourself or someone else. Are there other meanings you could give the behavior that would make it much more positive? Are there any other terms or labels that could reduce, alter or transform the meaning of the external behavior?

For example - ‘I’m not clever enough.’

Is being clever really the issue here? What about if this is a sign that you just need to study more. Do you really believe just because you aren’t clever enough you won’t be able to succeed in other areas of your life? Is being clever the be all and end all of everything?

Well OK let’s say it’s true, so you may have to give up on the idea of being a Brain Surgeon, but it really doesn’t stop you from achieving an infinite number of things in other areas of your life does it?

Maybe not clever enough but still clever right? You might not be clever enough but you are determined and motivated to get where you want to go are you not? Maybe your IQ isn’t up there with Einstein’s but whose is? If we were in another country now, how would this hold up? Would people in other cultures use this belief to prevent them from having what they wanted in life?

What about if you looked upon this as an indication that you are not where you want to be yet, you could become clever enough if you made study a priority in your life. In what situations are you not clever enough? Are you clever in some situations and not in others?

I suppose if we are mixing with the best intellects of our time then this might hold true, but what about in everyday life, surely you are clever enough? Are you sat around doctors with PhD’s when you say this? What about saying ‘I’m not quite up to their level in terms of education’ or ‘These guys have certainly read a lot more books on the subject than I have’?

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When you have a negative belief try re-framing it with some of your values in life. For example with a belief such as ‘I’ll never be able to learn Japanese’, you could say something like - It looks like it is important for you to learn a language? You must value people who speak a second language. Do you also value the time it takes to learn a language and the dedication and commitment required? Which do you feel you should concentrate more on to be true to yourself?

Do you think it would be better to spend time saying you won’t be able to learn Japanese or instead spend time actually listening to audio tapes and reading books about the Japanese language?

So you do care about learning a language, with this in mind can you think of ways that you will be able to learn Japanese?

Some questions you may want to ask yourself:

• What are some of your higher criteria or values?

• What would happen if you applied your higher values and principles to the negative belief?

• Which of your values would prove useful to apply on this belief?

• What values would qualify your negative belief in such a way as to make it much less limiting?

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A story about re-labeling behavior - Sam always hated meetings at work, not because she didn’t like talking or that she felt self conscious, it was because (in her eyes at least) everybody at the meeting were a lot more intelligent than she was. Sure they worked in different departments, and they were bought into the company to do different jobs, but Sam just believed them all to be slightly superior to her, more capable and this always made Sam feel uneasy when at staff meetings.

You see everybody was supposed to talk at staff meetings, they were open discussions and everyone present was expected to participate. Most people did participate all except one, Sam.

One particular meeting was all about new strategies and ideas that they could implement on their current project which was currently behind schedule. It was a typical meeting, lots of brainstorming of ideas and as was common some well thought out strategies were being put forward. As usual Sam played the part of the careful observer, listening intently to what others had to say but not putting any ideas of her own across.

Nobody ever said anything to Sam, but she always felt uncomfortable and it was this feeling of discomfort which would really get under her skin. She would often think about it for hours after the meeting had finished. In her mind everybody else was more intelligent than she was. Their discussions proved that, as clear well thought out comments were always present in every meeting.

In Sam’s eyes it was because her colleagues produced clear concise ideas at the meetings that made them more intelligent than she was. This was what she thought anyway.

Sam thought about this for a while, she started to wonder what other ways she could look at their behavior? Was it true that because they spoke clearly at each meeting it meant that they were more intelligent than everybody else? Maybe it was because they had never been afraid to speak out that their ideas always seemed so clear and well thought out.

Could it be that they had been exposed to meetings more than Sam and so found it easier to articulate their ideas? What about if they were taken out of the meeting? Sam knew she performed just as well as her colleagues outside of the meeting room, it was just in the meetings where she failed to perform.

Did it really mean that because someone spoke up in a meeting they were more intelligent than those who remained quiet? Sam started to think that this was absurd, and rightly so, she started to come up with alternative conclusions for the behavior that her colleagues displayed in the meetings.

• They had more practice
• They weren’t afraid to speak their mind
• They were used to it
• They had done it many times before
• They didn’t worry what others thought

Sam thought about these new ways of labeling their behavior, rather than say they were more intelligent it made more sense to attribute it to more experience.

And so armed with this new way of thinking about her colleagues behavior Sam started to formulate her own plan for contributing more in meetings, she now knew it wasn’t down to intelligence but rather lack of experience, so little by little, speaking more in each meeting Sam began to involve herself in staff meetings more and more, and was soon not only putting forward her own ideas but also having them adhered to in the weeks that followed.

Sam felt great and no longer felt inferior or worried when a staff meeting was called.

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One way to think about any negative or limiting belief you have is what exactly it will do for you in the future, or what are some of the consequences that the belief could produce? In particular do you like what you see when the belief plays out in the future? For example - ‘I feel too lazy to implement any of my goals.’

Where exactly will you be in 3 months time with this attitude? It is fair to say with this attitude that in 3 months time you will be exactly where you are now. You would have produced absolutely nothing. In the long run this will get you nowhere, is this what you want? Is this really acceptable for yourself?

If you continue to have this belief just exactly where will you go in life? Would it be better if you didn’t have any goals, would you then feel less lazy?

If this is an embedded command to your nervous system then do you really want to feel lazy about your goals? Are your goals such that they cause you to be indifferent about achieving them?

Are your goals so lofty that the reason you say this is so you can develop a ‘I knew I wouldn’t be able to do it’ attitude? It sounds like you are prepared to not achieve any of your goals by way of you feeling lazy, is that what you want? Is where you are now your highest path, if so take a look around and congratulate yourself?

Well you obviously have goals and you do care about achieving them, Is this attitude really helping you achieve your objectives?

(Assume you are achieving some success)

When you keep telling yourself this, it seems that you are forgetting how many of your goals you have already achieved, if this is feeling lazy imagine what you could achieve if you were feeling motivated.

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Overcoming negative beliefs - Useful questions to ask yourself about your negative belief:

• Who says this?
• Do you realize this is just a map (your map) about the world at large? It doesn’t mean that it is true.
• When did you (or somebody else create this idea), what was the context?
• Do you really think that this belief applies to everybody?
• Did somebody teach you to think like this?

As an example take the limiting belief of - ‘My business won’t make any money’.

Where does this belief come from, is it yours or somebody else’s?

Of course not everybody would believe this. There are individuals and companies that make a lot of money. Have you always believed this or has this belief arisen out of something you have recently done?

Does everyone who starts a business think this way? Do you realize that this is just a map about the territory, and that it doesn’t make it true (or even real).

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Negative and self limiting beliefs can and very often do hold us back in life. These beliefs can stop us from achieving what we most want and need in our lives. Our limiting beliefs more often than not have been learned as we have gone through life and very often we have bought them with us from childhood. While they don’t serve us well, they are still very personal to each of us. Many people form strong identities from their beliefs, limiting or not and so any negative beliefs can become a deeply ingrained part of their personality one that they carry around with them for years.

Beliefs are personal; they are important and have the ability to define our entire lives. Our beliefs have governed how we have lived in the past, they govern how we are living now and they will govern how we will live our life in the future.

Examples of some negative and limiting beliefs:

• I’m useless, I always have been

• I am an idiot

• I’ll never be a success

• Everyone hates me at work

• I won’t become rich

• My Business will fail

• I’m not clever enough

• I’ll never be able to learn Japanese

• I’ll never get promoted at work

• I’m too fat

These negative and limiting beliefs ultimately serve no real purpose apart from to stop us from having what we want in our lives. They become so entrenched in our minds that we just accept them as normal, never really believing we can do anything about them.

Just one negative belief about yourself, your situation or anything else related to your life can dictate to you the action you take, the behavior you exhibit and the environment where you find yourself.

A negative belief can really make it difficult if you are looking to make a change in your life or accomplish some goal. It becomes your own personal roadblock that stops you dead in your tracks. You accept it and it becomes the way your life is.

Of course everyone is entitled to believe what they want. We have a choice, and we can choose to not accept our limiting beliefs any time we wish. Do you really want to continue creating mind made barriers for yourself?

You may want certain things in your life, you may want more for yourself, your family and even for the world around you, but yet your limiting beliefs never seem to go away, they have always been there and they will always be there in the future. They will remain a fundamental part of who you are unless you do something about it.

Remember that beliefs can be changed, and this is great news when we know we have beliefs that limit us. You probably used to believe in Santa Claus but I bet you don’t anymore. Rest assured that if you want to really change a negative belief you have, it can be done.

One useful strategy to use is to step forward into the future and envisage what will transpire (or not) as a result of the belief you hold.

When we do this we can see just exactly where our negative belief will lead us.

Types of question to ask yourself when taking the negative belief into the future include:

• What will happen later on in the future if you persist with this belief?

• What consequences will occur as a result of this belief?

• What results will or could arise from the initial set of results?

For example:

I’ll never be able to learn Portuguese.

With a belief like this, where will you be in 2 years time? Imagine instead if you start learning Portuguese now, how much of it would you be able to speak in 2 years time?

Do you realize the more you believe this the more this will prevent you from actually learning Portuguese. So eventually over time you will not be able to learn any new languages with a belief like this.

So I guess you can forget about conversing with any Brazilians in their own language when you visit Brazil then?

You could carry on asking similar questions based on what you will be able or not be able to do as a result. Try it with your own negative beliefs and see if your perspective changes.

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Affirmations can be very useful when you need to give yourself a pep talk occasionally, it doesn’t hurt to remind yourself from time to time what you can do or are capable of by way of some positive self talk. However don’t fall into the trap of contradicting yourself (saying something and then never carrying out the appropriate action). For example saying you feel great then immediately saying you feel terrible. Here are some ideas to get you started:

• Use statements that serve you in the present moment, for example to focus on a current goal or to increase your self-belief.

• Use words that mean something to you.

• Read your statements as often as you need to.

• Use your self talk when you are working on stopping negative thoughts, you can use them to replace any negative internal dialogue.

• Sometimes it may be necessary to first interrupt your current thought pattern, do this by changing state; either physically (going for a walk, exercise) or mentally (change what you are thinking about).

Examples:

• I am a very good singer

• Every day I am becoming more confident

• Today I feel great

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Here is an exercise you might want to have a go with to help with any limiting beliefs you may have:
Write down what it is you want to do (goal, outcome, something you want to happen in the future):

• I want to do this ……..

Then write down why you can’t or the reasons (limiting beliefs that get in the way).

• But I can’t because ………

Then ask yourself the following questions and write down all your answers:

• What would happen if you could do it?

• What stops you?

• How would you know if what you are saying wasn’t true or how would you know if you were able to achieve your goal?

• How do you know that? (What are you seeing, hearing, feeling to indicate that it is not possible

• How does X cause Y (ie how does not having a degree mean that you are stupid?)

• How will you feel when the problem is no longer an issue?

An exercise like this is useful as it can help you see your outcome from a different perspective, ie it allows you to go into the future when the problem is no longer an issue. Give it a go and see what you get from it.

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Beliefs about your identity

We all have negative beliefs about ourselves and what we are capable of, yet how many of us have actually asked ourselves what exactly we are identifying with when we speak about our capabilities? How exactly have we managed to believe this and why? Has the belief you hold served you well up to now, will it serve you well in the future. Does it empower you in any way at all?

Here are some example negative beliefs and ways you can reframe them.

I won’t be able to get out of debt; I’ll probably be paying off my credit card forever.

Do you really want to be labeled as somebody who never managed to get out of debt and was al

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