Create Change in your life

Check out my new ebook, it is called ‘The experience’ and it is about the life you are currently living, this free ebook looks at how we create our very own life situations based on the choices we make, and what we choose to think about. It is written from the perspective that we are more than what we are currently experiencing, and that we will exist beyond our current body. It looks at the non existence of time, how our beliefs dictate our reality, the nature of thought, the illusion of difference, how it is sometimes necessary to make changes in life, and how rising beyond thought can sometimes be a very useful thing to do.

Here are a couple of excerpts:

from the chapter ‘choices’:

The experience is a choice and together with learning about yourself and life, it is important for you to understand here and now that great power lies within you. But perhaps before you can really utilize that potential that underlies your very existence, you must understand that it is you who needs to take full responsibility for your life, and not make excuses for the way it has been, or look to blame people or events that are outside of your control, as this is a losing game to play. The life you live now and in the future will always be down to you and no one else, and this is great to know and be aware of because the power lies within you at all times, and as soon as you start to blame others or external events you can begin to feel very small and powerless to do anything about it. The result of which will be that all of what you will commonly get to experience in life, will be laced with feelings of frustration and anger as you don’t feel you can do anything to change it, however this is false as it will always be you who holds the key to your life. It is you who is in charge at all times, you make the choices and you get to live the experience.

From  the chapter ‘the illusion of being different’:

Life situations and the realities which make up people’s lives are all based on perception and interpretation, and this is always different for everyone. For the most part, people who live in different countries obviously still share similarities (that which make us human for a start), and when we think about the world at large, including the people in it, we can either look for the similarities or we can look for the differences. People living in other countries will always be similar at some level, albeit in slightly different ways, as each person and culture has its own way of doing things that may not be universally shared. People are still people regardless of the geographical location. We are all human, we all live on planet earth, we all have to eat, sleep, make a living, look after ourselves and those around us, yet people, still hold fears about different cultures and populations living in obscure parts of the world. Is it really so hard to learn to get along with each other when we clearly have so much in common, both inside and outside the body.

Feel free to check out my other site, inifinite awareness, a site about waking up and coming to terms with who and what we really are (consciousness experiencing a human reality).

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Once you have defined a vision and set goals for yourself, it should be full steam ahead, it simply will not benefit you to put yourself down when you are on a path of creating a better life for yourself.

You should always be fully supportive of yourself and your endeavors. It is important you become your own best friend, this means using your mind in a positive way and not letting it use you. Self doubt and loathing will not help you, they will get you nowhere. All they will do is keep you stuck in a self perpetuating loop and negativity and self doubt.

Every little bit of action you take to create a better life should be celebrated not negated by negative self talk or a negative attitude you have towards yourself (if you do then it will be like one step forward, negative self talk, then two steps back).

If you find that there are situations in which you speak negatively towards yourself? Learn to ignore it or simply observe it. Don’t be impatient with yourself, learn that success takes time and that once you are on the right path you need to be on your own side. You need to continually support yourself, through everything you do and so it is important to give yourself praise when you make progress (however small) and not to berate yourself when things go wrong (if they do).

Don’t beat yourself up when things don’t go the way you want them to, if you do this it is like some form of mental torture. Remember that if you’re having a bad day, or things aren’t going right for you it is only temporary, realize that you are on a path of progress, you have a goal, don’t let minor things get in the way, get over them quickly, move on and spend your energies elsewhere.

Learn to accept yourself for who you are at any moment in time, you define your own happiness nobody else does this for you. Look out for yourself and look after yourself in life first and foremost and always be ready to praise yourself when you achieve things in life, no matter how small they may appear to be.

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This new free ebook that will help anyone who is looking to make positive changes in their lives. The book includes chapters on creating a vision for your future, confidence, self-belief, motivation and action, motivational strategies, implementing a strategy (the 5 level model of change), creating new empowering beliefs, why people don’t set goals, goal setting, finding more time, focus, powerful language, positive distortions of the mind and searching for a smile (strategies for happiness). In this book you will discover how to feel more confident and what confidence really is. You will also discover the most common reasons why people don’t set goals and how to avoid them. Discover how to become more motivated, feel happier, increase your self-belief, develop a more positive attitude, find more time, create a vision and more. For more information download it here.

Full chapter listing:
Your vision for the future
Confidence
Self-belief
Motivation and action
Motivational strategies
Implementing a strategy - The 5 level model of change
Creating new empowering beliefs
Why people don’t set goals
Goal setting
Finding more time
Focus
Powerful language
Positive distortions of the mind
Searching for a smile

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An interesting video, part of a series (The calling) describing the world in which we live and how it is controlled and manipulated by the few at the expense of the many.

Please watch and pass on

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Your past needs to be left alone and not bought with you into your present if you are working towards creating a better life for yourself. Your past never has to be an indication of all you can do in the future, unfortunately for many people this is not the case, they give life to their past by constantly thinking about it in their minds and so in some way it does get in the way of the actions they take in the present moment.

Don’t waste time doing this, as much as possible plan all that is to be in your future, and spend your time focusing in the steps that you need to take now for it all to happen. The more you do this the greater your chance of success will be.

There are many great things about to happen in your future which deserve your attention and your time, and it is this which you should be devoting your actions to in this present moment.

If you have beliefs about certain things not happening in the future because they have not happened in the past, then understand that they should not be given any life in your present and certainly not in your future? Don’t spend time dwelling on what has or hasn’t happened in your life up until this current point where you find yourself.

Become more optimistic about your future, get excited about all the good things you will get to do and all the new things you will learn. You can have the life you want, but you have to stop thinking about you past.

It is important to adopt an attitude of ‘anything is possible’ for your life and it is equally important to leave the unproductive thoughts behind. An attitude of ‘I am the way I am, and that is how it will always be’ won’t help to move your life forward. Neither will ‘I’ve never been good at this before, what makes now so different’?

If you are planning on changing your life then all these attitudes need to be left behind. Instead of focusing your attention on the past, choose to focus it on creating new realities for yourself now.

With the actions you take each day you are creating a new history for yourself, become aware of this and do not underestimate the affects of even the tiniest action you take in this present moment.

“Your future history is being created right now, this minute.”

Start facing up to truths about who is responsible for your future. It is only the actions you take now that will ever dictate what will happen in your future. You can make something happen for yourself, believe this possible and accept no statements to the contrary. The only person who can ever get in your way of making something good happen for yourself is you.

This is your time, your reality and your life. Don’t live in somebody else’s shoes, your life is your responsibility and no one else’s.

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The actions we have taken in the past have bought us to where we are now, this is a fact. Look around you now, you are where you are because of a decision or decisions you made at some earlier or perhaps quite recent time in your life. There is nobody else to blame for where you are right now, if there is anyone is to blame at all. Accept it as it is, if you are happy to, if not then change it.

All life experiences are useful

Whatever you experience in life good or bad, you are always in a position to look upon it as a learning experience; doing so enables you to move your life forward in a new positive direction. If you have had a bad experience, instead of dwelling on the negative, take what learning’s you can from it and move on.

Always look upon life as a learning experience, if you have experienced something today that you haven’t experienced before, good or bad you are now more knowledgeable than you were yesterday, is this not a fact, and with this new knowledge you are in a better position to make a more informed decision on where you should be tomorrow or further into the future.

There is no greater teacher than experience, when you experience something you gain a firsthand account of what it feels like, looks like and even smells like. This knowledge will never leave you, and whenever there is a time when you need to make a decision about what to do in the future, you will, if you need to, be able to reference past experiences to help make a better more informed decision.

It is sometimes better in life to take action, get the experience, learn from it and move on, even if it isn’t the most enjoyable or you think you have wasted your time, you haven’t. You have always learnt something.

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Are you a dreamer or are you somebody believes that your future has already been written in stone and that your fate is down to genetics? Maybe you believe that dreaming is just simply wishful thinking, if you do you are only half right. Because dreaming is good for you, it can stimulate your brain to go into the future and visualize amazing new life situations for yourself. Of course another ingredient is needed and that is action, but dreaming in itself is a good activity to be engaged in as long as you understand that it alone won’t get you what you want. Never just accept your life as it is, especially if it is not what you want for yourself. This attitude will never help you, it is defeatist. Instead always choose to imagine what is possible in your life. Dare to dream that your life could be so much greater than it is at the present moment.

Don’t ever let your age or your current job act as limits to where you can be in the future. There are many obstacles that people face in their lives that are imposed on them by themselves; age and current job are two of them. Always continue to grow, develop and learn new things in your life. You never finish evolving and you never reach a certain age when things will never be different, we are all work in progress, there are ways in which everybody can improve on themselves. Appreciate what you have but understand you can always have more.

“We are all better than we know, if only we can be bought to realize this, we may never again be prepared to settle for anything less.”

Kurt Hahn ‘Founder of Outward bound.’

Never accept for yourself a life that’s anything less than what you desire the most. Don’t be like 99% of people who just accept their life as it is, and that it can never be changed, or that you should just be happy with what you have got even if it isn’t what you want. If your life now is not something you dreamed about when you were younger, you are not living the dream and so you need to ask yourself why?

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Ninety nine percent of people out there settle for what they perceive to be an ‘OK’ life for themselves, they aren’t really rich but then again they aren’t poor, they have achieved some things but also failed to achieve other things. These people have accepted their lot and have settled on being average. People who are average and who have settled for mediocrity in their life are not the most inspiring people, and the worst thing of all is that they don’t want you to succeed; they want you to be like them. It makes them feel better knowing that you are on the same level as they are.

Let’s face it not everyone will succeed in life, some people simply don’t want to succeed, maybe they believe it is easier for them to just stay as they are, these sort of people always offer excuses as to why they won’t get what they want or succeed in life.

They come up with excuses such as…

• They say they are too old (if only they were 10 years younger)
• Too many bills to pay
• Lack of time
• Destiny has already been planned for them
• Family commitments
• Success requires a lot of money to start with
• Lack of a good education
• No influential friends who can help them out

Why do so many people settle for mediocrity like it was some destiny already planned for them?

99% will not bother to create change in their lives. Why is this? Who knows? They are content with being average just like everybody else. Maybe some people don’t believe they can achieve success, or perhaps they believe that they don’t even deserve it.

Be special and different, never make excuses and never accept anything less than the best for your life.

“There is nothing with which everyman is so afraid as getting to know how enormously much he is capable of doing and becoming.”

An amazing life

It is a sad fact of life but go getters and successful people are the minority, pathetic, average and weak people are the majority.

There are many people in this world who are living lives well below what they could be living. They are average people leading average lives simply because they don’t believe it is possible for them to live any other way.

For example let’s say person A has a goal to make one million in 3 years, and person B has a goal to make $100,000 in 3 years. Neither goal is easy although at first glance it may appear that person A’s goal is much harder and will take more effort, the reality is both goals are equally as hard, they will take an equal amount of effort from both people if they are to be successful. The mind will take you wherever you want to go, it will focus on whatever you want to focus on. The difference is that person B only believes he will only be able to make a certain amount and no more, both people are correct in what they believe for themselves, which is why it is so important to think big, thinking small isn’t worth the effort.

“Under achievers are some of the hardest workers around, their problem comes not from their ability to take action, it comes from their inability to set big enough goals and a lack of belief they will achieve them.”

Don’t be someone who under achieves in life, the world already has enough people like this. A lack of ambition will not help you get what you want in life, life can be very different for you, and the first step to leading an amazing life is to not settle for mediocrity.

If you are confident you can achieve any goal you set for yourself and have the self belief and motivation to go make something happen for yourself, don’t let the size of your goal be a limitation for you. Think big, think better, think beyond your wildest imagination, get excited, believe and go out and show the world you have what it takes to turn your dream into a reality.

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Always keep on going!

Remember just as every tree starts out as a seed, any ideas or plans you have will initially be just like that seed, the difference is that the seed will never get discouraged and neither should you.

• Every business started out with no customers

• Every marathon runner started running a few hundred metres at first

• Every eBay power seller started with one feedback

• Every actor looked a fool and made mistakes in the beginning

• Every great sportsman has been beaten many times

• Every great painting was once just a single brush stroke

• Every blog starts out with no posts or comments

• Every website started out with no visitors

• Nobody was born with business skills they can be learned

• Every musician started out sounding bad and out of tune

• Every great guitarist started out learning the basics

In the beginning whenever you start anything new in life the main point to remember is to not get discouraged and to always keep on going.

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I’m not talking about being in the woods and not knowing your way out, although it could be used as an analogy. What I mean here is don’t ever be without a roadmap of where it is you are going or where you want to get to. If you don’t have that then you are lost and when you’re lost it is very easy to drift or become a drifter, and the unfortunate thing about drifting is that it almost always leads to a place called nowhere.

It is always important to be focused on what you want, but if you are not yet sure of what that is then it is just as important to be focused on something, even if it is not for the long term.

And it may be that you will never ever know what you want to do with your life, this is OK, there are probably many interesting people that never knew what they wanted to do with their lives. But that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t have focus in your life.

For example, say you don’t want to work for somebody else but you know you want to get rich, then always stay focused on the ‘getting rich’ part. And don’t dwell on the fact that you are not focused on working for somebody else.

Another problem with ‘being lost’ is thinking too much, which in itself can be like walking in a maze, going around in circles and never finding the exit.

I am very guilty of this, and take it from me, it really is no fun at all, especially when you add some extra negativity into the mix.

There are ways to think that can lead to creativity and new ideas, there is also a way of thinking that can lead to very dark alleys and huge roadblocks, which is the kind of thinking I am talking about here, a type of thinking that is best avoided.

If you do start to think too much, a good thing to do is to start focusing on things that you do have in your life. We almost always have more than we know in our lives, even if we think sometimes that we don’t and occasionally get lost in our own thoughts.

But getting back to being lost, you should always know what you want, even if it is an extra $200 a month to help with the bills, reminding yourself of this will always be better than saying ‘I don’t know what I want’.

If you have an idea of something you want to do in the short term but perhaps not in the long term, stick with it, being focused in the short term will probably stimulate more ideas than admitting you are lost and don’t know what to do.

I am not sure if you can wander aimlessly through life and just sort of hope that an idea will fall on your lap and that your life will suddenly all fall into place. It is just a hunch I have but I don’t believe life works like that, or perhaps that it even should.

If you want new ideas then you have to think new ideas, if thinking what you have been hasn’t got you what you wanted up until now then that is something you need to change.

When you have an idea of something to do, it is best to follow your instincts and go with it. Even if it is not what you want to be doing in 5 years, it may well shed light on something that you would like to be doing in the future.

If you start to become passionate about doing something and follow it through, then this act alone may bring along its own rewards.

“It sometimes seems that intense desire creates not only its own opportunities but its own talents.”

If you are lost in your life and not sure what you want then something will always be better than nothing. Chose something and focus on it fully, don’t do it half hearted. Ask yourself what it is you want to happen from your new activity set some goals and outcomes, say for instance ‘in 3 months I want to have this’ or ‘in 6 months I want to have that’, and make sure you get it. Don’t stop until you achieve it.

Get involved in something, don’t be a drifter who is just letting life pass them by, go out, get busy, be somebody and start making something happen for yourself.

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