Create Change in your life

Everybody is capable of great things, but not everybody believes they can achieve great things, which is a real shame as the world doesn’t need another person who simply doesn’t believe they will get what they want; the world is already full of people like this.

What it needs are people who come up with new ideas, follow through on their goals, believe they can be successful and go out and create the life for themselves that they most desire. There aren’t enough people like this in the world today.

Too many people are living a life far removed from what they really want. Don’t be like them. You are here for a reason and are entitled to live the life you most want to live. The world is a stage and it wants you to take your place and it is by holding belief in yourself that you can and will be able to create the life you most want. By not holding self belief you will almost certainly miss out on a lot of what life has to offer, so you have a choice, either believe in yourself and refuse to and accept anything less or accept where you are now is where you will always be.

When you start anything new in your life believe that you will be successful, and that it will all work out in the end. it is possible to have the life you most want but you will first have to believe it is possible.

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Lacking self belief is like starting a journey, but already knowing you are never going to reach the destination, sooner or later you will realize it is pointless continuing and so you will stop and give up. With self belief you wouldn’t have this problem, you would just keep going, until you reached your destination. If you got on a bus with a destination in mind, but the driver confirmed to you that the bus didn’t go there, would you still buy a ticket and ride anyway? Probably not, then why bother setting off on a journey to create a new life for yourself if you don’t really believe it will happen?

Nobody starts a journey and hopes they acquire some self belief along the way, your tank (self belief) needs to be full before you start.

Ask yourself this, what exactly are you attempting to make happen that you can’t have some self belief in yourself. Is your goal to feed, clothe and look after 500,000 starving children, or are you planning to arrange a tea party on the moon for a group of 25 senior citizens. Just what is it you want to achieve in life?

It is about having a firm belief in your abilities to do what is necessary to take your life to the next level. It is not about having faith in 100 strangers you just met on the street to get you there, but faith in the one person you know better than anyone else in the world. Is it really so hard to believe in yourself?

What sort of journey do think it will be if you decide to not really believe that you will get what you want, but you will try anyway? How far do you think you will get?

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There are some people in life who don’t even bother to start anything such is the complete lack of belief they hold. Do you know anyone who might say that they want to do something, but that they won’t because they don’t really believe it will be a success? What do you immediately think when you hear someone say this, perhaps you yourself have been guilty of saying something similar?

They make no attempt at making it happen, and instead they give up on themselves and what they want. They make no plans, they take no action and they suffer the consequences as a result. Why do they give up? Simply because they harbor a belief (limiting) that they won’t be able to achieve success at whatever activity they want to start. They lack self-belief in themselves.

Don’t adopt a burnt out defeatist attitude before the race has even started, instead choose to think positively and believe that you will be successful in the things that you set out to do.

It takes guts, courage, determination and self belief to make a go of something, age is no barrier to this, and you don’t need a great education to have these qualities, they are available to anyone. The person who takes action in life to make something happen will first believe in themselves.

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Have you ever heard an athlete talk about how they will win the gold medal before the race has started? Then when the talking stops they take their place on the starting line, they do indeed go and win the gold medal. Are they surprised when they win? They are elated, pleased and very happy with themselves, but not necessarily surprised. After all why would they be surprised, they would have always known deep down they could do it? People who achieve great success in life know they will be successful before the time comes to step up and collect their prize (whatever that may be), this ‘knowing’ comes as a result of the self-belief they hold.

Will you get what you want?

Will you get what you want in life? When you start something in life how confident are you before you start that it will turn out well, because a lot of success and failure comes down to the self-belief held by the person as they start and continue to work on any new challenge.

Creating change or getting what you want from life is about first believing that it is possible and that you can achieve it. And while self-belief in itself will not automatically guarantee you success, it will certainly be one of the reasons you do or do not start and certainly continue to take action in your life until your ideal life situation manifests itself in front you.

Do you know whether or not you will succeed or fail in life? Because to have self belief is to already know you will get what you want, and that you will succeed.

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Belief is fundamental before you will achieve anything in life. It may sound obvious, but it is very true, if you don’t believe something will happen in the future by the actions you take today, you will not even bother to start. Belief is a fundamental ingredient if you are to manifest any change in your life. When you don’t believe you always look for ways to confirm (normally by way of inaction) what you don’t believe will happen to be true. This is very easy to do.

So it is important when you set off on making changes to any aspect of your life that you first believe you can do it, and this means really believing even to the point of expectation, like you completely and utterly believe you will be able to carry out whatever goal or plan you have set for yourself.

There are probably many reasons why people don’t achieve what they want in life, one of the reasons will be a lack of belief. So you have to believe and you also have to….

• Encourage yourself
• Respect and think highly of yourself
• Keep on taking action until the life you want manifests itself

It may sound very simple but is there really a need to complicate things?

Is there really a secret to all this, to living your ideal life, I am not sure, but fundamentally at the core of any journey or path to a better life, there has to be faith, belief, self-confidence, and a healthy respect for yourself that you are indeed deserving and entitled to lead the life you want for yourself, and of course you are, but it is important that you firmly believe this when you set out on your journey.

In the early stages of change, it will be so much easier to give up and do something else. But the people who you see now living the life you most want to live could probably have given up as well, but they didn’t instead they kept on going and so should you.

There should be no need to get bogged down by negativity, observe it, and be aware of it if it happens in your life, but never let it have the final say. You will have the final say when you are living and breathing your ideal life.

When you have a goal in mind or something you want to achieve, you have to be positive about it and believe it will be possible right from the very first moment the thought enters your head. For example, I want this…. and yes I believe I can do it. I will do it., I will take action until it happens.

That’s it. No self doubt, no worry and certainly no ‘it will never happen’, or ‘it’s impossible’, because they will not help you.

The reality you live and will live in the future is dictated to by your thoughts and beliefs. So if you don’t believe something will happen or indeed it is possible guess what will transpire in the coming weeks and months?

First of all decide what it is that you want?

Now look around in as many places as you can and see if it has been done before?

If it has then you already know it is possible, you don’t have to believe because you already know it has been done before. So just get on with it and make it happen for yourself. You are no different to others who have made it happen you are just at a different stage in your journey.

If it hasn’t been done before, get ready to be the first to ever do it. It doesn’t mean it is impossible, it just means that it hasn’t been done yet. If you want to create something that hasn’t been done before believe you can do it and start taking action. There are many things in this world that were not always here, and so the person bringing them into manifestation would have not seen any examples of what they wanted to happen but he or she would have still carried on believing and taking action, and so should you.

Nothing is impossible, only the mind makes it so. Successful people are sometimes those that just kept going, carried on believing in themselves and never stopped taking action. It is not rocket science.

Believe it can be done always, because otherwise the moments of disbelief, will turn into days of inaction, which will delay you getting to where you want to be.

So first you have to……

• Always believe it will happen, and sometimes it is just better to know it will happen
• Keep encouraging yourself
• Look at where you were and where you are now
• Set short term targets
• Keep taking action until the life you want transpires in front of you

The simpler you can make it the better, it doesn’t have to be nor should creating the changes you most want in your life be difficult or hard. Take things bit by bit, and eventually you to will have a story to tell about how you completely changed your life around.

If the life you want has been done before then you should not be your own roadblock to success. Just keep on keeping on. Don’t make it harder than it needs to be.

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When you think negatively you don’t think about life in a very positive way. The negativity will cause you to cloud your thinking, it will cause you to dwell on the past and worry about the future. The question to ask is what is the point of your negative thinking, why are you doing it? Is it because you are feeling bad, stressed, angry, uncomfortable, restless, depressed? The result is a very un-resourceful state which you stay stuck in. The mind will then stay negative and you may even feel angry about feeling negative, so it then becomes an endless cycle of negativity.

Rather than think of all the plans you have made for the future, you instead immediately lower your sights about what you think is possible for yourself. You will start to dwell on your limitations, and your thoughts will be taken over with anger about the past and fear for the future.

Negative thinking will take you to the place where you don’t want to go, the exact place you are trying hard to move away from. Negative thought patterns will crush you.

Now there are certain events which can trigger off a chain of negative thinking, we are human and sometimes we get the blues? We can allow our thoughts to dominate us at times, but we shouldn’t let our minds control us like this. The mind is available for you to use anyway you want. It is capable of taking you to the highest highs, it is also equally capable of taking you to the lowest lows, you need to make sure that yours takes you to the highest highs.

• Do you spend time being negative?
• Do you look at things in your life in a negative way?
• Do you think negative thoughts about your life and your future life?
• Do you sometimes feel like just giving up, or giving up on yourself?

If your negative thinking is left untreated it can be seriously bad for your health and eventually lead to suicidal thoughts.

How is this happening?

You are thinking hopeless thoughts for the future.
You don’t perceive that there is anything worth living for.
You believe you don’t actually deserve to succeed.
You belief you are destined to live a miserable existence.

“Negative beliefs are barriers that have to be overcome before we can even hope to go any further in our lives.”

“We are all worth more than we already have and everybody deserves a shot at something better.”

“Negativity is like a poison that can ruin the human spirit and suck the life right out of you. Negativity is born from concepts invented in your mind about what you cannot or will not be able to have or do and feeling powerless to do anything about it.”

You can do something

There may be times when in your life people tell you that you can’t do something, probably when you were younger and also perhaps as you have gotten older.

However the statement left in its original form ‘You can’t do something’ will have little meaning, it is only when we change the statement and repeat it back to ourselves with an ‘I’ that it can really affect us.

It then becomes an identity statement, a statement that your brain starts to believe to be true, a statement that will not only cause you to have doubts about your ability to do something; it will also affect your behavior and actions.

Turning it around

There are times when we sometimes don’t have the skills to carry out a particular task, when this happens rather than say to yourself ‘I can’t do this’, say ‘I can’t do this yet’. Don’t form a limiting belief from one small event that happens in your life. Your confidence levels can really drop when you do this. When you form a negative belief it affects your actions as well as your feelings. Not having the skills at a particular task is one thing but it is a completely different story when you form a lasting negative belief from it.

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What would you like in 3 months that you don’t have now? What about 6 months or a year from now? If you know your life is not taking you where you want to be than that is a sure enough reason to do something about it. If the image you get of yourself in the future doesn’t fill you with excitement or motivation then you need to do something about it. Your life is special and you should not waste it doing something for which you are not suited to or that you don’t enjoy. If you find yourself in the position of not knowing what to do with your life this is OK, understand that at this point in your life there are many opportunities available to you.

Don’t limit what is possible in your life through narrow thinking, you can have what you want, believing anything else is pointless and will lead you into a spiral of despair and negativity.

If you don’t believe you can have the life you want then you will more than likely end up depressed, so the first step to creating the life you want to is to believe it will happen.

You will need to be your own best friend right from the start; you will need to have your mind working for you not against you if you are to get remotely close to having the life you envisage for yourself.

What exactly do you stand to benefit by making changes to your life?

• Increased happiness / well being
• Greater wealth
• Increased self esteem / self confidence
• Improved outlook, more optimistic
• Healthier mind / body
• More friends, wider social circle
• Greater job satisfaction
• More satisfaction to live for now rather than wait for some point in the future to arrive
• Better relationships
• Career success
• More excitement
• Stress free life / More security

Feelings associated with successful change:

• Satisfaction
• Fulfillment
• Determination
• Empowerment
• Positive Attitude
• Self-confidence
• Creativity
• Self esteem
• Invincibility
• Happiness
• Courage
• Contentment
• Achievement
• Triumphant

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Re-labeling the external part of a negative belief - So let’s say you have a limiting belief that involves or is based on some behavior exhibited by yourself or someone else. Are there other meanings you could give the behavior that would make it much more positive? Are there any other terms or labels that could reduce, alter or transform the meaning of the external behavior?

For example - ‘I’m not clever enough.’

Is being clever really the issue here? What about if this is a sign that you just need to study more. Do you really believe just because you aren’t clever enough you won’t be able to succeed in other areas of your life? Is being clever the be all and end all of everything?

Well OK let’s say it’s true, so you may have to give up on the idea of being a Brain Surgeon, but it really doesn’t stop you from achieving an infinite number of things in other areas of your life does it?

Maybe not clever enough but still clever right? You might not be clever enough but you are determined and motivated to get where you want to go are you not? Maybe your IQ isn’t up there with Einstein’s but whose is? If we were in another country now, how would this hold up? Would people in other cultures use this belief to prevent them from having what they wanted in life?

What about if you looked upon this as an indication that you are not where you want to be yet, you could become clever enough if you made study a priority in your life. In what situations are you not clever enough? Are you clever in some situations and not in others?

I suppose if we are mixing with the best intellects of our time then this might hold true, but what about in everyday life, surely you are clever enough? Are you sat around doctors with PhD’s when you say this? What about saying ‘I’m not quite up to their level in terms of education’ or ‘These guys have certainly read a lot more books on the subject than I have’?

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When you have a negative belief try re-framing it with some of your values in life. For example with a belief such as ‘I’ll never be able to learn Japanese’, you could say something like - It looks like it is important for you to learn a language? You must value people who speak a second language. Do you also value the time it takes to learn a language and the dedication and commitment required? Which do you feel you should concentrate more on to be true to yourself?

Do you think it would be better to spend time saying you won’t be able to learn Japanese or instead spend time actually listening to audio tapes and reading books about the Japanese language?

So you do care about learning a language, with this in mind can you think of ways that you will be able to learn Japanese?

Some questions you may want to ask yourself:

• What are some of your higher criteria or values?

• What would happen if you applied your higher values and principles to the negative belief?

• Which of your values would prove useful to apply on this belief?

• What values would qualify your negative belief in such a way as to make it much less limiting?

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