Create Change in your life

Once you have defined a vision and set goals for yourself, it should be full steam ahead, it simply will not benefit you to put yourself down when you are on a path of creating a better life for yourself.

You should always be fully supportive of yourself and your endeavors. It is important you become your own best friend, this means using your mind in a positive way and not letting it use you. Self doubt and loathing will not help you, they will get you nowhere. All they will do is keep you stuck in a self perpetuating loop and negativity and self doubt.

Every little bit of action you take to create a better life should be celebrated not negated by negative self talk or a negative attitude you have towards yourself (if you do then it will be like one step forward, negative self talk, then two steps back).

If you find that there are situations in which you speak negatively towards yourself? Learn to ignore it or simply observe it. Don’t be impatient with yourself, learn that success takes time and that once you are on the right path you need to be on your own side. You need to continually support yourself, through everything you do and so it is important to give yourself praise when you make progress (however small) and not to berate yourself when things go wrong (if they do).

Don’t beat yourself up when things don’t go the way you want them to, if you do this it is like some form of mental torture. Remember that if you’re having a bad day, or things aren’t going right for you it is only temporary, realize that you are on a path of progress, you have a goal, don’t let minor things get in the way, get over them quickly, move on and spend your energies elsewhere.

Learn to accept yourself for who you are at any moment in time, you define your own happiness nobody else does this for you. Look out for yourself and look after yourself in life first and foremost and always be ready to praise yourself when you achieve things in life, no matter how small they may appear to be.

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• Are there times when you don’t stand up for yourself either at work or dealing with other people?
• Do you immediately wish you had said something right after someone has spoken to you?
• Do people always ask you to do things because they know you will never say no?
• Do you deliberately keep your opinions to yourself so you don’t offend anyone?
• Are you self conscious when you go out?
• Do you struggle to put forward your opinion or ideas?
• Are you unsure that you could make a go of a new career?

Take a few moments now to discover how confident you really are by taking part in the following confidence quiz…..

1. Your boss asks you to deliver a presentation tomorrow in front of 20 delegates from a potential new client. Do you:

a. Accept the challenge, telling your boss they won’t regret choosing you and start to develop your slides right away.
b. Ask them if they are absolutely sure they want you to do it, suggesting that it may be better to offer it to someone else.
c. Panic, start to get an uncomfortable feeling in your stomach causing you to take the next 2 days off work sick with worry.

2. You are at a restaurant, when the waiter arrives with the bill, you notice you have been charged for 2 extra glasses of wine. Do you:

a. Immediately remind the waiter of exactly how many glasses you had and that you have no intention of paying for any more.
b. Politely ask the waiter if they are sure the bill is correct, but still pay anyway.
c. Start to question if you did actually have 2 extra glasses of wine and pay the bill to avoid any fuss.

3. You are on holiday and have just arrived at your hotel, you booked a room with a sea view overlooking the swimming pool, however when you arrive you are told this room has already been taken, and instead are placed in a room at the back of the hotel right next to a building site. Do you:

a. Ask to see the manager right away, explain to them that you have paid for a sea view and will not accept anything else. Tell the manager that either they move you to the room you were promised or they refund you the cost of your holiday.
b. Ask why you are not able to have the room with the sea view, explain that you have paid for a room with a sea view and ask if they have anything similar.
c. Gladly accept the new room next to the building site and remind yourself that these things happen from time to time.

4. You take a taxi journey you have taken many times before, however when you reach the destination you realize the driver has not used the meter. He then asks for 5 times what you have paid previously. Do you:

a. Explain to the driver you have travelled this way many times before and that you know how much it costs, and will not pay any more.
b. Ask the driver why he didn’t use the meter and tell me him the price seems excessive.
c. Pay the fare, and remind yourself to walk next time.

5. You are at work and your boss half an hour before you are due to finish asks you to stay for an extra 3 hours, however it is your best friends birthday and you have already arranged to go out for the evening, do you:

a. Refuse your boss, explaining that you have made alternative plans, and that if you are required to work extra hours again you are to be given much more notice.
b. Tell your boss you had made plans but agree to work the hours anyway.
c. Happily agree to work the hours, even though you don’t want to.

6. You set a goal for yourself to lose some weight in the next 3 months, do you:

a. Not only complete the goal, but also lose more weight than you first anticipated.
b. Lose some weight but start to get discouraged and eventually change your original goal.
c. You rarely set goals as you never succeed at anything.

Mostly A’s

You are confident; you can handle yourself well in all situations and are able to get what you want most of the time.

Mostly B’s

You are somewhat confident and can be assertive although occasionally you do let people walk all over you.

Mostly C’s

You are not very confident at all and rarely get what you want, you very easily taken advantage of. You know you need more confidence and to learn to be more assertive in most situations.

To increase your confidence right now, download and listen to the ‘confidence exercises’ MP3, and for more information on what confidence really is read the ‘Blueprint for creating change’ eBook from www.createchangeinyourlife.com

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There have been some changes made to the main site and if you haven’t seen it you might want to check it out now. This blog is not main part of this site (although there are a lot of articles here). The main site now contains 19 professional MP3 audio tracks to help you start making changes to your life immediately.

The mp3’s allow you to create a vision for your future, increase your confidence and self-belief, live in the present moment, discover your ideal job, develop a strategy for change, find more time, set goals and silence negative internal dialogue.

All the audios are available to download for free, also included on the site are additional worksheets which have been designed to accompany the audio files so you can document your goals, strategy and other changes you are looking to make.

Check out the mp3’s and let me know what you think, I think that you will find them helpful wherever you happen to be in life. No matter what you are looking to change I am sure that you will find something useful. Good luck with your journey of change. I wish you well.

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