Decision making
When you make a decision to do something in life, the very act of making the decision can actually instill confidence in you that may not have been there before. It is a bit like when you bet on a horse, before you place the bet you are still unsure as to whether the horse will win, you hope it will win, but you aren’t really sure. However after you place the bet all of a sudden you become confident that the horse will win, you suddenly have faith in a horse that just moments before you weren’t sure about. You now totally believe the horse will win, you have placed your money and your confidence in the horse has grown.
With indecision comes fear and uncertainty, as you hesitate to make a decision, the process itself becomes harder as you constantly way up the pro’s and con’s of each choice available to you. You start to become unsure of what action to take which then breeds familiar cries of ‘I don’t know what to do’, or ‘I can’t decide’.
Once you make a decision these anxieties disappear, replaced instead by confidence. The uncertainty that was there previously has now been substituted with assurance that everything will work out.
A bit like a do or die situation, it’s like ‘OK i have made this decision, this is what I am going to do, so I might as well give it my best shot and give it everything I have’, fear and insecurity will only hinder any chance of this working out. An extra dash of boldness almost always follows any decision you make in your life, especially an important one that is about to bring change to your current circumstances or some other aspect of your life.
Once the fear has gone and the decision has been made you become clear on what you need to do and that is what you start focusing on. The hardest part sometimes is actually making the decision in the first place. How many times have you heard people say they can’t decide what to do?
There is little point in thinking about the other options you had when you have already made up your mind about something, the hard part has already been done. You don’t think about what a holiday to Greece might be like when you are on a plane to Italy. Instead you are thinking about all the activities you are going to do in Italy to make it a great holiday.
There is little point in wondering what might have been with previous decisions you have made in your life, or if you should of taken this path or that path. Seldom does this produce anything other than negative emotions such as regret, anger, depression. It leads to ‘what if…’, or ‘if only’ kind of thinking.
With decision comes commitment, you have made the decision and now you are committed to making it happen, making sure everything works out. Along with the commitment comes confidence. Confidence in yourself that you made the right decision and confidence in your abilities to make sure it happens.
So when you finally make that decision, (whatever it may be) just think of betting money on a horse, at first you weren’t sure that it was going to win, but now you have placed your bet, you become that little bit more certain that something good will happen.
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