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Possibilities

When faced with uncertainty, it is sometimes looked upon as a negative to not know what you want, when people arrive at a crossroads in their lives, being unclear about what to do normally brings with it introspection and self doubt and more than likely a little concern about what the future will bring. But perhaps another way to look at this critical junction, is that it is a point in time when you have many potential avenues available to you that were not there before.

“At the point of uncertainty you are open to all possibilities.”

A time when instead of having no clue about what to do and consequently feeling apprehension about it, it becomes a time to look at a much bigger picture, a picture filled with numerous opportunities some of which you may never of considered before and probably would never consider if you were to stay on your current path. It is at these crossroads that anything is possible in your life. At these moments in your life you should not limit your choices but rather embrace all potential future scenarios as options for yourself.

Just because you don’t know what you want to do or are unsure what direction you want to take doesn’t automatically mean that it is something to feel bad about (or feel frustrated over).

When you arrive at a turning point in your life it is important you explore all options, it is not something trivial to be put to one side and re-evaluated at a later time. It is your life and it is important to spend time with any ideas or motives that you may have to do something different.

You have the potential of being anything you want. In today’s society there are more prospects than ever before to create a life for yourself that is truly unique to you. Today you can redefine you and your life in ways that 50 years ago were unheard of.

Technological advancements in our everyday lives and in terms of understanding the human mind provide us with ample opportunities to create change in our lives.

When you are uncertain about the road to travel down, remind yourself that your life is unique and that there is no correct path that works for everybody. We are all different and everybody faces difficult decisions about which direction to take at some point in their life. Just because you are faced with choices wherever you are or however old you are doesn’t matter, all that matters is that you see your situation in a positive light and investigate all options available.

Our choices provide us with a glimpse of ourselves standing in new surroundings; they are a chance for us to see ourselves in the future. They are a blueprint for what may be possible for us, a life that is not yet realized and what previously could not be foreseen.

Stories not yet told, experiences not yet fulfilled.

Do you ever look around and wonder what happened? We all realize hindsight is a beautiful thing but sometimes we lack the foresight to ever come up with new ideas.

The thing is there are new ideas all around, tomorrow something could be invented that will change the lives of people everywhere. Somebody once said years ago, that everything that needs to be invented has already been invented … Not quite.

Opportunities are everywhere around you, all you need to do is open your eyes. Instead of seeing nothing but roadblocks and barriers to stop you from getting what you want, be hopeful about the future and understand that any decision you make has potential to take you on a new journey in life.

There is a place for you in this world, a place for you to be the best you can be. When you find that person in you (who is aligned on all levels), one who is congruent with his / her values and skills in life, and who is doing what they really want in life, then nothing will stop you, your will and desire to succeed will be too strong for any obstacle.

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Can you occasionally be found procrastinating? What even is procrastinating? Well it is basically putting things off, being lazy (in so many words), not doing what you should be doing, finding excuses to do what you know needs to be done and instead doing nothing. I am guilty of this. If you do find yourself delaying activities or chores or anything productive for that matter, it pays to actually spend some time to look at what exactly is going on inside your head, i.e. the pictures you are making, the voices you are hearing and the feelings you are getting just prior to the activity or task that you need to be doing (it may even be just getting up in the morning). Some people may get a voice that says ‘You should go and do the dishes’, which often prompts the immediate response of ‘I don’t want to’, which leads to inaction, as nobody likes being told what to do, even if it is a conversation in your own head.

Other people may get an image or play a video of the activity, which may also prompt a negative response. For example a movie of yourself filling out your tax return (or some other equally tedious activity) is unlikely to fill you a rush of excitement to go and start the activity. One way to combat the ‘You should go and do such and such’ is with a softer ‘it will be nice when the activity is completed’ or ‘it will be useful to have this activity finished’.

This will then lead you to think about the activity when it is done, which should provide more motivation for you. Alternatively if an image or video of the task being done doesn’t fill you with motivation, then perhaps you could change it to a video of the task completed, and see how much more motivated you become. Think of the task as finished instead of the process of actually doing the task (especially if it is a mundane activity such as doing the dishes).

Everybody’s motivation strategy will be different and what works for one person may not necessarily work for somebody else. It is best to learn what goes on in your own mind, and if it is not producing the results you want, then change it.

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When you make a decision to do something in life, the very act of making the decision can actually instill confidence in you that may not have been there before. It is a bit like when you bet on a horse, before you place the bet you are still unsure as to whether the horse will win, you hope it will win, but you aren’t really sure. However after you place the bet all of a sudden you become confident that the horse will win, you suddenly have faith in a horse that just moments before you weren’t sure about. You now totally believe the horse will win, you have placed your money and your confidence in the horse has grown.

With indecision comes fear and uncertainty, as you hesitate to make a decision, the process itself becomes harder as you constantly way up the pro’s and con’s of each choice available to you. You start to become unsure of what action to take which then breeds familiar cries of ‘I don’t know what to do’, or ‘I can’t decide’.

Once you make a decision these anxieties disappear, replaced instead by confidence. The uncertainty that was there previously has now been substituted with assurance that everything will work out.

A bit like a do or die situation, it’s like ‘OK i have made this decision, this is what I am going to do, so I might as well give it my best shot and give it everything I have’, fear and insecurity will only hinder any chance of this working out. An extra dash of boldness almost always follows any decision you make in your life, especially an important one that is about to bring change to your current circumstances or some other aspect of your life.

Once the fear has gone and the decision has been made you become clear on what you need to do and that is what you start focusing on. The hardest part sometimes is actually making the decision in the first place. How many times have you heard people say they can’t decide what to do?

There is little point in thinking about the other options you had when you have already made up your mind about something, the hard part has already been done. You don’t think about what a holiday to Greece might be like when you are on a plane to Italy. Instead you are thinking about all the activities you are going to do in Italy to make it a great holiday.

There is little point in wondering what might have been with previous decisions you have made in your life, or if you should of taken this path or that path. Seldom does this produce anything other than negative emotions such as regret, anger, depression. It leads to ‘what if…’, or ‘if only’ kind of thinking.

With decision comes commitment, you have made the decision and now you are committed to making it happen, making sure everything works out. Along with the commitment comes confidence. Confidence in yourself that you made the right decision and confidence in your abilities to make sure it happens.

So when you finally make that decision, (whatever it may be) just think of betting money on a horse, at first you weren’t sure that it was going to win, but now you have placed your bet, you become that little bit more certain that something good will happen.

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