In 3 months time
If I said to you in 3 months time you would have the change you wanted in your life and your life would be exactly like you want it, what would your immediate reaction or thought be?
- It’s OK I already know I will have the change I want in 3 months time.
- Great! What do I have to do?
- No it won’t, it is just not possible.
- It will not happen at all, don’t joke about things like that.
- It would be nice but I doubt very much whether it will happen in 3 months.
- Yeah whatever, I wish.
- Are you serious? I don’t think so.
If your initial answer to the question is a positive one (1-2), then that would suggest that you already have the self-belief needed to make it happen. This is good, if you do then I would recommend you write it down on a piece of paper and stick it somewhere prominent so you can be reminded of it every day.
For example.
- 3 months from now I will have lost 14 pounds.
- 3 months from now I will be speaking good basic conversational Spanish.
- 3 months from now I will have completed 100 pages of my new book.
- 3 months from now I will be selling my handicrafts online.
- 3 months from now I will have found a new job with better prospects.
If you believe it will happen but are not sure how it will happen, as an exercise try this; Go into the future to when you will have what you want, and look back to right now. As you look back on yourself at this present moment, what are the steps you would have taken now to make your goal come true? What actions did you take? What was your day to day behavior? See each step you would have taken in your mind’s eye.
What were you doing each day to work towards your goal? Be vivid and detailed in your descriptions of the activities you did? This way you will know exactly what you have to do right now, to make where you want to be in 3 months from now a reality.
Remember to write down the goal, a few times if need be and put it somewhere where you will see it each day. Don’t be afraid to even send yourself a text message or an email reminding you about what you need to do each day to get where you want to be.
If your reaction to the question was negative, such as, ‘it won’t happen’ or, ‘I don’t think so’, can you guess what will happen in 3 months time? It is not rocket science to understand that if you say something will not happen, then the chances of it happening are slim.
If your immediate reaction is negative then you either;
1. Don’t believe you can accomplish the task.
2. Don’t really want to complete the task.
3. Don’t want to be disappointed when you fail.
4. Don’t believe the task is achievable.
If it is number 1, then you should ask yourself why exactly it is that you don’t believe you can accomplish the task and how you know this with such certainty. I would also recommend you start imagining that it were possible and use the technique outlined above to find out how you go about achieving it.
If it is number 2, you need to ask yourself why it is that perhaps you don’t want to achieve the task, is it fear of failure or even success, if you are not motivated enough, change the goal so you are?
If it is number 3, take the approach of ‘there is no failure only feedback’ and take action towards your goal. Look upon everything you do as feedback, if you are taking action towards your goal you simply cannot fail, therefore any action you take is positive.
If it is number 4, then ask yourself; is the outcome I want in 3 months to large, is it realistic? (A million in 3 months, a new business generating massive profits.) If it is then change the goal to something which you know is achievable in 3 months, I don’t mean to cut back on your expectation of what you want for yourself, but only you know what you can realistically achieve in 3 months.
If you don’t right now believe the task is achievable then it is highly unlikely you will achieve it, simple as that. How much time can you spend on the goal, can you afford to give up your job? 1 and 4 are similar, but if you are working 12 hour days, then how much daily time will you have for the task you want to achieve?
For example the difference between 1 and 4 is this,
Goal 1. In 3 months time I will have lost 14lbs.
This is an achievable goal, people have done it in the past and people will do it in the future. But not everybody will believe THEY can achieve it.
Goal 2. In 3 months time I want to be able to write a book, as-well as working 12 hours a day.
While writing a book is achievable in 3 months, however not many people would have done it working 12 hours a day in another job. In this example If you know you are going to be working 12 hours day for the next 3 months, either change your goal, or cut back on the hours you are working so the goal does become attainable.
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