You’ll never know until you give it a go
Why is it that we are so often down on ourselves and our abilities to make a go of something even before we have started it? I mean way before we have even attempted to start something, I am talking about when the idea originally springs to your mind. Do you recognize this? Maybe you want more money, to work for yourself, to change your career or to become somebody different (lose weight, more confidence). All great goals, but yet when you get pictures of the things you want the most in your mind, you hear a voice that immediately says ‘It won’t happen’ or ‘It’s too difficult’ or ‘If it were easy everybody would be doing it’ or ‘come on be realistic’. Sound familiar? Does it happen to you? If it does it can be a huge roadblock to making any progress in your life.
Do you recognize any of the following traits in yourself from time to time?
- Self sabotage
- Self loathing
- Self doubt
- Self confidence (lack of)
I think it’s probably fair to say, although correct me if I am wrong, but anyone with the above traits probably would have real difficulties making anything worthwhile happen in their lives even if they tried. Life is hard enough without all of this stuff floating about in your head. It doesn’t matter how old you are, where you live, or what you do, we are all the sum of our thoughts. Success or failure all originate in our minds.
“Defeat is not the worst of failures, not to have tried is the true failure.”
George E Woodbury.
How on earth does anyone know that they will fail at something or not be very successful before they have even given it their best shot? How can a person be that sure, that confident that they won’t succeed?
It is only after you have given something your best effort, given everything you can to achieve something that you can be in a position to make judgment about yourself or your abilities, and even then it benefits no one by being down or negative about it.
But to say to yourself that something is not going to work before you have even tried? Why would you do that?
It’s like
‘I really want to do X’
‘But I probably won’t be very good at X’
‘So it will probably be best if I don’t even attempt to start X because I already know it won’t work out.’
No attempts, no day by day goals to attain X, no plan in place, no persistence, no action, instead just a simple statement to yourself that it probably won’t work (even though you would like to make a go if it).
To not try something at all, is complete failure, but to give something a go takes courage and guts, it should be encouraged and commended in anybody who does however old they are.
Instead of people being so sure of that they won’t succeed why don’t people turn this around and believe that they will be successful. Why would someone adopt a burnt out defeatist attitude before the race has even started.
You can understand a writer who has been in the business for 20+ years, and is still waiting to be published to have a certain negative feeling towards the whole thing business (perhaps). But to someone who has never even given it a go?
What does that really say about you?
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